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Post by Gamoc on Apr 24, 2009 4:18:32 GMT
If you're not an adult into your mid-twenties yet, then you are very likely to begin to grow sexual attractions towards people. It probably just hasn't kicked in, yet. I know that I didn't care about the looks of most of the guys that I like until I was in the eighth grade, whereas most of the other guys were sneaking in playboys in third grade.
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Post by LonelyArtist on May 1, 2009 22:46:58 GMT
Well, I mean, I know that. This is just sort of a "what if" thing. Because I'm seventeen. That's almost mid-twenties, right? I've been a bit sad, lately. I think it's because I'm normally an extremely lucky person, so even small set-backs throw me off guard, and then I'm also really happy, so a little bit of sadness will make me really depressed. [If you haven't guessed yet, I'm off the asexual topic now.] I think a lot of it has to do with prom tomorrow. I'm not going. Nobody asked me, and I'm not popular enough to ask anyone else. My friend Melli is going with my ex Charles. He cut his hair for her.  He never cut his hair for me! That's part of the reason I broke up with him, actually...ha ha. Well, whatever, right? Right. |
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Post by Gamoc on May 2, 2009 21:22:51 GMT
Seventeen is about....seven or eight years away from mid-twenties. Yeah, whatever! I didn't go to prom (but that was mostly because I couldn't afford it). Still, prom can be overrated. Plus, you have two proms to go to. Just let this sort of thing go, I know how hard that is, but do something like...excercise. Excercise produces endorphins and endorphins make you happy! ;D (Not very organized, sorry.  ) |
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Post by LonelyArtist on May 24, 2009 4:38:34 GMT
Ugh. I have so much to say, but I don't know WHAT to say. I just want to yell, but I don't know what to yell about.
So my sadness has gotten worse. That's relatively normal for me this time of year...tryouts are coming up for the summer show, so my mediocrity comes crashing back in. Union Street (our school's "good" choir) tryouts are coming up...I've tried out every year, and I still haven't made it in. Next year is my senior year, so if I don't make it...well, I'm definately not going to stay in regular choir...sigh.
The whole orientation thing is pissing the hell out of me, if that phrase makes any sense. Remember the really nice sophomore boy I mentioned briefly at the beginning of this thread? Yeah, well. He hasn't gotten any less nice. Or sexy.
I have no idea if I'm not a lesbian. It's basically just him. And something tells me that I don't like him, but I want him to like me. I like people's approval. So my wanting him to fall in love with me might be making me think I like him.
Although, in a sense, I know I am definetely bisexual, just because there's so many sexy male celebrities (I love you Colbert!). I like real girls better than real guys, but I like famous (or "fake") guys better than famous (or "fake") girls. Is that normal?
Well, I suppose it doesn't matter. I'm only 17 (which is a lot closer to mid-twenties than eighth grade, anyway!).
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Post by Stacey Morgan on May 28, 2009 2:39:20 GMT
I've given this advice hundreds of times, it's onlyy one line, it's simple, easy to remember and easily passed onto others:
Go into the middle of a field and screem!
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Post by Gamoc on May 29, 2009 1:22:33 GMT
Honestly, I like famous girls more than guys, and I like real guys more than real girls, so I know where you're at there. Really, there is so much that you could do. One thing that I would suggest is meditation or yoga. Both help with creating a calmness of mind. Go out and buy a simple thirty minute yoga or pilates video and do it everyday. You'll find your mind getting calmer and calmer if you keep your focus on the video! |
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Post by LonelyArtist on May 29, 2009 23:32:09 GMT
Man. My moods are crazy. I'm, like, back to happy now. I'm just (usually) a happy person!
So, guess what? My sister said that she'd never want to meet an asexual. I was shocked, mostly because she's extremely accepting of homosexuals. She said not wanting sex makes you "not human." I tried to tell her that old people don't like sex, but she said something about them being ABLE to have sex. "Asexuals CAN have sex," I tried to tell her, but she said something about them not getting turned on.
Wow.
Hey, so there's a homosexual flag, a bisexual flag, and a transexual flag. There is no flag for hetero or asexuals.
That's weird.
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Post by Gamoc on May 30, 2009 15:07:55 GMT
Do heterosexuals really need a flag?
Well, I wouldn't say that being asexual means you're not physically attracted to anybody. I would just think that it means you need an emotional attraction before you develop the sexual attraction...am I correct?
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Post by LonelyArtist on May 31, 2009 2:07:08 GMT
"Asexuality" is the one sexuality that can vary substantially from person to person. Some asexuals have absolutely zero attraction either physically or emotionally to anyone (They would then also be "aromantic"). Some asexuals can feel romantically attracted to someone, but have absolutely no sex drive. My personal experience is that I can feel romantic attraction to another person, but not a sexual one. I have sexual feelings and "urges," but they're never directed to another person. If I was to have sex with someone, I imagine I'd be sexually satisfied, but I'm in the position where I don't need anyone else to satisfy me!
LOL, it's so weird to explain.
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Post by Gamoc on May 31, 2009 14:13:54 GMT
No I get it. Basically what you're saying is that you can live without it, but it would satisfy you if you did have it?
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Post by LonelyArtist on May 31, 2009 22:54:55 GMT
Sort of. But it's not that I "can" live without it, it's that I "want to" live without it. It's like if "Bob" was gay and had sex with a girl. Because of the actual act of sex, there's a good chance that Bob would have an orgasm, but...he probably wouldn't want the sex to begin with. Like, when I think sexually, I think about the act of sex, but I'm never thinking of a person. I'll think of a person's sexual organs sometimes, but the face never floats to the surface. It'd be like Bob, probably shutting his eyes and trying to forget who he was having sex with. Browsing on AVEN, I've found that my case is actually one of the most common variations of asexuality. The second most common (again, just by my browsing people's posts; I've seen no official research) is being able to have an emotional connection but not thinking about sex AT ALL, not even autosexually. *** The senior class graduated today. I've still got three more days. My friend Carrie graduated. But she lives across the street from me, so it's not like I'll never see her again. Still, I'll have to go three days at school without her clinging to my arm. *** Sims 3 comes out the day after tomorrow. I am SO psyched. |
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Post by Gamoc on Jun 1, 2009 13:56:58 GMT
Oh, well that makes sense. Kind of odd, but hey, I'm kind of odd, too. Well, at least she cling onto your arm after school on those days! I haven't even play sims 2, although what I really want to play is Spore. (Sorry its not a great post. ) |
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Post by andrewlj2002 on Jun 2, 2009 21:32:27 GMT
Sims 3 comes out the day after tomorrow. I am SO psyched. Pre-ordered. ^_^ |
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Post by LonelyArtist on Jun 13, 2009 23:08:23 GMT
 On my computer, if you highlight over a smiley on this site, its eyes turn all squinty and it gets this really evil smile. Does it happen to any of you? Creepy.
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Post by Stacey Morgan on Jun 17, 2009 21:14:12 GMT
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He never cut his hair for me! That's part of the reason I broke up with him, actually...ha ha.
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