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Post by LonelyArtist on Jul 5, 2009 5:58:51 GMT
Does that apply everywhere? 'Cause, my friend is from Ecuador, but her dad was born in America, but they lived in Ecuador for years before moving back here. He didn't have citizenship for Ecuador?
He could have had either a work or spousal visa (or both?) I suppose. Which I could get if I went to Japan of course. Still, that seems odd.
You're going to teach English in Japan?! Or the diplomat thing? Either way, that's awesome!
It's not that Japan doesn't want teachers, it's just that everyone in Japan wants to teach. Although the sites I looked at were a few years old, so I don't know if that still applies. Where did you look?
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Post by Stacey Morgan on Jul 5, 2009 8:10:15 GMT
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Post by LonelyArtist on Jul 20, 2009 1:02:38 GMT
I hate being single. At least for this long. The only time I had a boyfriend was at the end of tenth grade, and I never had a girlfriend. I wouldn't mind having another boyfriend, just so I wouldn't be single for my senior year. Yuck. Problem is, our school is teeny. We've got 77 people in our grade, and that's kind of big for our school. My sister has 56 in her grade. There's nobody interested in me. Besides my ex-boyfriend of course. Oh, and the choir teacher. But both give me the heeby-jeebies.
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Post by Stacey Morgan on Jul 20, 2009 22:16:25 GMT
I'm sure you're wrong, there will be loads of people interested in you - you probably haven't noticed.
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Post by LonelyArtist on Jul 23, 2009 15:46:33 GMT
Ha ha ha ha!
I must have been pretty tired or something on that last post...I'm usually not so whiny. Wow.
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Post by LonelyArtist on Aug 25, 2009 17:00:21 GMT
I'm at Wisconsin Dells! If you've been living under a rock, Wisconsin Dells is the self-named Water Park Capital of the World. I think it lives up to its name. I'm in a resort called Chula Vista. It's a more "grown-up" resort compared to the ones aimed for little kids. I'm here with my mother, sister, and her two friends Tess and Levi. It's a two bedroom suite, with my mom in one room, my sister, Tess, and I in the other, and Levi out on the fold-out bed in the main room.
Tess got her monthly miracle for the first time last night. I feel so bad for her. A water park is the WORST place for that to happen! So she'll either have to miss out on all the water fun, or learn how to use tampons right away.
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Post by LonelyArtist on Sept 28, 2009 2:46:18 GMT
So I have gradually actually quite quickly become comfortable with being a lesbian. I'm not sure what it is, but I recently rapidly became happy liking girls.
This, however, poses all new problems. Before, the "coming out" problem really wasn't an issue because I hadn't accepted it myself yet.
It's not so much a problem of people accepting me, because they actually probably wouldn't be that bad. My family is liberal tolerant of other lifestyles, kind of a "if you don't annoy us we won't annoy you" kind of thing. And I'd probably get some weird questions from classmates, but there's no the two crazy conservative guys from last year graduated, so I wouldn't be harrassed too much.
It's just...I don't know if I should before I get a girlfriend. I've already agreed to myself that if I do find a special girl, I am not holding back. I wouldn't be able to stop myself from telling everyone. But if I don't even have a girlfriend, I might be painted as a "lonely lesbian." Does that stereotype exist? I'm scared to death of it, so at least it does in my mind.
I had a dream a couple nights ago that I was outed. It was scary how realistic it was. My sister Eleanore was upset--not because I was gay but because she had found out from Tess, who had found out from Levi (my sister's friends). It was weird because I probably would tell Levi (he's either gay or really metero is why). And he wouldn't tell my sister because I would ask him not to, but he would tell Tess because he would think she wouldn't tell Eleanore, but she would, and Eleanore would get mad! I wouldn't blame her, though. She found out that her friend Annabelle and my ex-friend aqcauntance were gay in the same week, so she's been feeling kind of...I don't know, lied to?
It's weird.
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Post by LittleSomething on Oct 1, 2009 17:05:22 GMT
Heh, when I first found out about my own orientation I accepted it rather rapidly too. After years of denial, mind you, but when I did come to terms with it I did so pretty much all at once. It wasn't until later that I started psychoanalyzing myself and thinking about the new set of problems. Not to rain on your parade of course! Enjoy being happy about it! You should be happy. It took me a long time to realize that. I'm happy for you too!
As for coming out... I haven't actually done it yet, so I probably shouldn't advise. All I can say is, do you want to tell people? If you feel comfortable enough to come out, if it feels like the right thing to do, then I'd say to follow your heart. Remember, too, that you don't necessarily have to do it all at once. You could tell the people closest to you and get their support before coming out to your classmates. Again, though, it all depends on how you feel about it! Listen to your heart.
I've never heard of a "lonely lesbian" stereotype myself. I don't see any reason to judge a single gay person more than a single straight person. So you haven't found someone yet, so what? Loads of people haven't. I'd say you shouldn't worry about how people might stereotype you; as long as you don't stereotype yourself, it's all good! There's nothing wrong with being single, my friend. You don't have to stay in the closet because of it.
So, that said, I'll say again: if you really want to come out and it feels right, do it. Sometimes all you can do is trust your instincts. And be sure to keep us posted. :]
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Post by LonelyArtist on Oct 1, 2009 21:11:52 GMT
Well...it's not really the difference between lonely lesbian and lonely straight girl, just the lonely...I've only had one boyfriend, and that was honestly probably just so I wouldn't have to say that I've never had one. So I just don't want people to think that being gay is an excuse. Actually, one thing that would be worse would be if people tried to set me up...I don't even want to think of other people thinking about me having sex or something.
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Post by LonelyArtist on Apr 13, 2010 1:54:02 GMT
I got nothing. =( Well. I gots things. /sighs I failed Speech. I didn't go on to Sections. Since I am a senior, I have no more chances. I will never go on to State. My dream for high school is gone. When my kids ask me what I did in high school, my reply will be "nothing." Hopefully there's a speech team in college... catchycc.deviantart.com/art/Surviving-Speech-and-Dying-160291011That's the full story of my high school (and middle school) hopes and dreams...flushed down the toilet. It is over-dramatic, but it is all true. It makes me even sadder that I could put my entire life into a little more than two pages.
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Post by Gamoc on Apr 23, 2010 19:33:54 GMT
Aww. I can compare. I just lost State Outstanding Choral Student. It's really saddening, but it's not the end of your life. You'll have many other chances to do great and outstanding things as long as you go for it, plus I'm sure that there will be a speech team in college, so you'll have other chances!!!
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Post by LonelyArtist on Jun 16, 2010 4:19:13 GMT
Nrg. I'm so frustrated lately at my singleness. Catty needs a girlfriend. Ah well, going to the U soon, so I imagine it'll be much easier then! It's funny, I'm usually pretty content with being single. The better chance I have of getting someone, the lonlier I get...
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Post by Gamoc on Jun 16, 2010 18:52:47 GMT
If you're going to college, you'll definitely find plenty of lesbians who you could date! You could also try working at Sonic, I've noticed that they homosexuality rate at Sonic is quite high (I work there, too. ) as opposed to other resteraunts.
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Post by LonelyArtist on Jun 17, 2010 4:17:20 GMT
They don't have a Sonic around here. :/ OM Goodness college! I freaking graduated!
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Post by Gamoc on Jun 26, 2010 8:22:06 GMT
That sucks. I'm sure that there are other places that have a high homosexuality rate. Just look around, gay people seem to be everywhere where I am at.
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