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Post by Gamoc on Dec 2, 2007 3:24:54 GMT
Yes, but I'm bisexual, meaning they still could expect grandchildren, plus, I have 3 other brothers. One of them who, if he's not straight, he's really good at hiding that he's bisexual. Still, I hope that when I do tell her that she does accept it.  She'd probably take me to gay bars and stuff like that. This is a little off topic, but my mom went to a gay bar with one of her friends, and got hit on by a man, she went to a striaght bar, and got hit on by a woman.  (she had me when she was a teenage, so she's still fairly young). |
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Post by >Feather on Dec 2, 2007 3:42:29 GMT
Well, I've heard of cases where your parents have lots of gay friends and are supposedly very accepting of gayness and bisexuals, but when they're son comes out of the closet they throw him out of the house. I hope, for you, that your parents are accepting, but if they go into denial or get angry, don't take it too personnaly. I can't say exactly what goes on in their minds during that phase, but they may need a few weeks, months, perhaps even years to accept it. O.o |
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Post by Gamoc on Dec 2, 2007 3:45:41 GMT
I always tell myself years. I mean, if I got the guy of my dreams, and he didn't want to keep it private, well, then I'd tell my mom. My mom encouraged me to talk to gay people, though. Which really confuses me, oh well, I just have to wait until that day comes. Yeah, I know. |
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Post by nagdagger on Dec 3, 2007 11:48:23 GMT
That's weird... Are you really sure that she would go on denial if she found out your bisexual ? I mean, i think it's a lot easier to accept when the kid is a bi and not a completely gay person and when the parents are gay friendly. Obviously they will go sad and shocked, but it spares you from having to explain to them that you aren't guilty nor can you change it voluntarly
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Post by Gamoc on Dec 3, 2007 22:20:00 GMT
Yeah, but sadly, she tells me it is disgusting, and that bisexuality is even more disgusting. That you should just "choose one". Which really doesn't make sense and doesn't make me want to want to tell her. If I can keep out of it, I never will tell her, that's for sure.
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Post by nagdagger on Dec 4, 2007 10:21:50 GMT
Well, on the bright side, you still have the guts to talk about it with her and she gives you an honest answer. I know why she thinks it's disgusting. Obviously for someone who only likes the normal-to-be-liked will find liking both even weirder than liking the opposite. But hey, that's just her opinion. You can't expect to tell this kinda thing only to people who like the idea of being gay. I mean she may not like the idea, but she likes the people who are. So that's totally different. One thing is liking the sexual idea of someone, and the other is liking the person and she's definately not gonna hate you for being gay or bi. She can find it disgusting, but hey, who cares, that's just her opinion. What matters is that she keeps loving you  Besides, she might even be open to you because of having gay friends. Don't let her opinion make you think she wont like you. Why don't you come out to her gay friends ? That might help. They probably have tips and might help her get prepared |
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Post by Gamoc on Dec 4, 2007 12:30:26 GMT
I actually haven't seen any of them in a while, now that I think of it. Some of them have moved and there was only two that I could actually trust with this, where one of them has moved and the other one calls occasionally (of course, I'm not telling him over the phone if my mom can listen + he's hot xD). I just remember my mom telling me she would be ashamed of me "You can date Asians girls, black girls, but if you ever go gay, well, I don't think I would let you stay here anymore" and all sorts of bullshit. I was straight at the time, so I didn't think it would ever make me feel bad.  |
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Post by nagdagger on Dec 4, 2007 23:38:16 GMT
OMG  That's soooo homophobic of her :S But hey buddy, don't let that put you down You know she said that a while ago, you still have chances of her changing her mind, and if she hasn't yet, you can still do it with slow good talks about it once a while Then the first time you get an opportunity to talk to the gay friends, do so to talk about that And I believe she just said that in the moment she would never throw you out loool and don't worry, if none of what I said helps, you don't need to tell her until it does, so keep living your funny life with calm |
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Post by Gamoc on Dec 5, 2007 0:25:02 GMT
Well, I didn't think that she would kick me out, but I've changed my mind. I brought up the subject about how gay adoption is illegal in every state except Maryland, and she said that was disgusting. That it should be in every state that it's illegal. She wouldn't want my brothers and me growing up with gay parents. She would hate to know that we were being raised by gay people.  |
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Post by >Feather on Dec 27, 2007 17:41:17 GMT
Aw... that must have felt pretty bad.
Hm... Well, when she said that I highly doubt she really thought you'd actually become gay. It was probably an emtpy threat. I've found there's nothing, not even gayness or homosexualness, that can make a mother actually STOP loving her child.
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Post by Gamoc on Dec 27, 2007 18:59:14 GMT
Yeah, but it still scares me.
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Post by >Feather on Dec 30, 2007 20:35:12 GMT
Well, I doubt the prospect of coming out really ever cheers someone up, but...
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Post by Gamoc on Dec 30, 2007 23:44:00 GMT
Yeah, you have a point there. |
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Post by nagdagger on Jan 7, 2008 1:51:11 GMT
Lol yeah but feather is right she'll never stop loving you |
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Post by Gamoc on Jan 8, 2008 4:54:20 GMT
With my mom, it really is unpredictable. She'll "love" me one second, then be pissed over something stupid and take it out on me the next. |
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She'd probably take me to gay bars and stuff like that.
(she had me when she was a teenage, so she's still fairly young).
